I’m going to walk a very narrow line regarding this topic. You know how you hold an intervention for a drug user and they lash out at you? Well…..let’s just say denial isn’t just a river in Africa.
This topic goes out to Bridget and Mindy who threw this topic at me like plates at a Greek wedding.
Why is it that some women have relationships with men who are already in one.
Let’s examine our subjects, shall we?
The Man: He’s happy at home but….something’s missing. He’s not trying to work things out by communicating and he’s not leaving either. (yes, there are different variations, but hey….I’m not writing a book here.) consider this the default characteristic.
The Woman: chronic bad relationship finder, insecure, leads with her emotions. couldn’t find a good man if you put her in the million man march. And since women are more complex than men, I’ll offer more than one variation to her characteristics. The second type: fiercely independent, controlling, likes an “even table” (i’ll come back to that later). She snatches opportunities and doesn’t care who is cannon fodder. The third type: the platonic friend who’s the “oops how did we get in this bed” chick. She’s not in it emotionally. She’s in it for the diznik…
We all know some of these people don’t we? Or you probably do, and don’t realize what their Modus Operandi actually is. But the question (before I dive off into a tangent) is why? I’ll answer that question with another question. Why is it that women’s menstrual cycles sync up after being in prolonged proximity of one another?
“She who ovulates first, has the babies”…doesn’t make a bit of sense does it? Until you factor in we (both men and women) have a genetic primal code built right in our DNA. REPRODUCE AT ALL COSTS. So the syncing is a matter of competition in a sense, because if you’re not ovulating….somebody else is. And that someone else is getting the man you wanted for yourself. Then there’s that damned shortage. Macy’s had a sale on men and all you had left to pick from was the clearance rack.
We’re much more civilized than our cavemen brethren, so we don’t act on our primal urges, but our body still responds as it has for a milennia. The competitive gene is still there, affecting your judgment and emotions and most importantly your logic. And let’s not forget about those ticking time bombs that are set to explode sometime in your late 30’s, early 40’s….yes, I’m talking about your ovaries.
Now along comes Jimmy Valiant. Man, he’s a nice guy. nice job. nice teeth. He’s tells you all about his family, and the fun they’re having. If only your last ex- boyfriend wasn’t so into feet and vegetable dip, you could’ve had all that. And he’s got nothing on Jimmy….He’s attractive, and he’s all but drunk off the amount of pheromones wafting off you like a hot pie in a window sill. tick…tick…tick, damn it’s not your watch! Uh oh, you can’t be cramping now….no worries, its your fallopian tubes doing pilates, getting ready. Why on earth is your body doing Kegel’s right now?!?
Then it happens. Something that shouldn’t have but did, you feel guilty but you are enjoying yourself waaaaay too much to stop. It can’t end good can it? Just listen to any country music and/or blues song to find out how it ends.
And there you have it. Thank you Bridget, Mindy, and this bottle of Moscato I finished off, while writing this entertaining piece on the fly. Hit me up on Facebook again, and I’ll pen any topic you throw at me. Just don’t count on the accuracy….kidding!!! I’m right all the time.
Deuces.
The Economy of Words 
Damn Dennis, you just blew me away! I in no way expected you to take this route of blame for women being so allowing and promiscuous at times !! HORMONES !! Well I guess I can agree with you in a sense on this one 😀 The common belief nowadays, on why women get hornier and more sexual, in their 30’s+ , is due to that ticking clock and hormones 😛 (I am experiencing that myself *evil grin*). But I guess some of us women have a tad more control on keeping their legs together than others. But blaming hormones on why some women let their partners/spouses ‘stray’ is still a tad far-fetched. Being the married woman and knowing about it and allowing it? Hormones allow women to let themselves be degraded like that?
Personally I think emotional disorders and low-self esteem are to blame for allowing such things, more-so than just hormones, and I guess you did mention such women near the beginning…. and what is this “even table” you speak of?
Good read by the way Dennis, I very much enjoyed it 😀
Thank you very much Mindy! By the way, I don’t solely “blame” the woman. The man has his part in this horizontal dance session.
Now in regards to the woman who has been wronged, this blog DOES NOT apply. A woman that remains with a cheating man is there for other reasons than hormones. I ‘d say at the top of the list would be security. whether it be financial, or maternal. (its usually because of young children, and the man is a good father although he’s whore).
almost forgot….”even table” = level playing field…a partner that matches you mentally, physically, and financially.
Great blog it’s not often that I comment but I felt you deserve it.
Yep seen it too many times to count… you hit the nail on mufhain head.